Watch Out For The Comparison Trap

Watch Out For The Comparison Trap

One of the common potholes of life that you may fall into on the road to learning how to love yourself is the old comparison trap. You know the one. “Sheesh, that person is way better than me.” Or it could flip into what appears to be high self esteem: “I’m much better than that person.” This is just the other side of the same coin. It can flip in either direction. Either way, staying with this stream of thought causes self-suffering.
No person is better or worse than another. We all came with different growth assignments for this lifetime. Consequently, we all have different areas of mastery as well as different areas that are steep learning curves. As you learn how to love yourself, don't be fooled by how someone else appears.
So, while Betty Sue may have already mastered personal relationships (I hope she’ll give a workshop for the rest of us!), she hasn’t quite figured out how to open up to receiving abundance yet. And Bobby Lee is a multi-millionaire but can’t seem to get it together in his personal relationships.
If you find yourself falling into the comparison trap frequently, it would be a good idea to do a Voice Dialogue session on the subject. If it is chronically about not being as good as other people in some way, find the aspect within who feels that way and let them talk. Then find your best friend aspect and hear their loving response.
You can use this same technique if you find yourself chronically on the other side of the coin: “I’m better than that person.” What you will find is that the aspect who feels better than others is the same aspect as the one who feels less than others. The stance of feeling better than someone else is just a buffer to protect you from the wrenching feelings of not good enough. What appears to be high self esteem is a cover up for low self esteem.