Relationship Advice 2

Don’t be afraid.
That doesn’t mean you race out the door and saddle up with the first guy that you meet but it does mean that you commit to you.
As I said to a reader last night who’s moving forward with her life after a terrible break up that derailed her for a few months, it is important to “act out of love for yourself”.
This is how you learn to trust yourself and your interactions.
If you being involved with a man means that you have to be devalued, miserable, have low self-esteem, anxious, afraid, or whatever that negative emotion is, you are not acting in your best interests.
If loving him means that you can’t love you, you must always opt out and love you. Trust me, you’ll thank me for it in the long run.
Close the door and don’t linger at the door like in the movies, wondering if he’s on the other side. Close the door and walk away.
It is as simple as getting up right now and getting on with your life. Put away the mementos (I know a few of you are fond of burning stuff but be careful!), rearrange your furniture, return anything that belongs to him, and close down those ideas about him possibly coming back. Whenever you break, you must treat it like it’s permanent.
What will be, will be, but you won’t ‘be’ anything if you’re not ‘being’ someone.
Permission to close the door on your relationship and move on – Granted.