Sunday, December 15, 2013

Better Off Dead

Edited: 1/31/2012 10:14 AM by


Better Off Dead
I have been kicked out of high school for messing up too many times. My family is kicking me out of the house. I can't find a job because I don't have a diploma.
Everyone calls me a failure, and I been thinking that I am better of dead than alive. I can't do anything right, and I don't know how to fix my mistakes. What can I do? Don't you think my life is meaningless ?
Edited: 1/31/2012 10:15 AM by


Thanks so much for taking the time to send us an email this evening. We definitely don't feel like your life is meaningless...actually we think the exact opposite. You are going through a difficult time right now, we admit that. At the same time, you are showing a lot of strength, courage, and perseverance by sending us an email. The way we respond to challenges says a lot about the type of people we are.
While faced with a lot of uncertainty and overwhelming emotions, you found a way to reach out for some support. That really is awesome and says a ton about the type of guy you are and you definitely are doing the right thing.
Who do you have in your life who you could turn to for some support right now? Extended family members, teachers or coaches you were close to, religious leaders (priest, pastor, etc.), friends, and friends' parents are all great people who you could reach out to. You are never alone and help is always out there...sometimes the biggest challenge is finding the strength to actually reach out to these people.
But, like we said, you've already demonstrated resiliency and strength by opening up to us...use that same strength to reach out to people in your life. Having in-person comfort and encouragement can really do wonders for somebody when they are struggling.
You can't change the mistakes you've made in the past, but you are absolutely in control of the decisions you make now and in the future. If you've made mistakes in the past, the best thing you can do is use them as learning opportunities. Everybody makes mistakes, the key is to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again. Also, if you feel like you've burned your bridges with anybody, try to start repairing them. Show them the commitment you've made to learning from your mistakes and moving forward. It is never too late to patch things up with anybody. Lean on the people who you are still on good terms with for support, while doing your best to atone for the things you've done in the past.
Are you gonna be able to keep yourself safe? Thinking about ending your life is a really scary thought to have. We know that you feel overwhelmed, but most problems are only temporary. You haven't always felt this way, nor will you always feel this way in the future. Things will start turning up, and your support system can be there to help you through this. Can you promise yourself that you will reach out to somebody if you feel like you are gonna harm yourself? Friends, family, 911, anybody who can help keep you safe.
Keep in touch. Let us know how things are going and if you can stay safe. We are always just a phone call away when you need us.
Abe, Counselor

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