Stay Positive and Love Life

Spending your time worrying, stressing, and thinking of all the things that "could" happen do absolutely nothing to change the situation. If anything, it just brings about more stress and ultimately invites and attracts more negative energy your way. If you're facing a challenge, do what you have control over and everything else, you have to trust that whatever happens is in your best interest. Trust in you. Trust in your life. Trust that you are exactly where you're supposed to be! And breathe....

Depression, self-doubt, fatigue, unhappiness, despair, failure, dejection, uncertainty, hopelessness, and self-loathing—these are the emotions too many of us nurture, cradling them close and feeding them like beloved children. We help them develop into the monsters that control us. We teach them our weaknesses and encourage them to take advantage of our failures. Why do we so tenderly foster the enemy this way?

Truth is—negativity is easy. It comes without effort, without goals, without having to stand up and fight for it. It at least lets us feel something, rather than the emptiness that we fear may overtake us. Negativity is also addictive in a way as we build up habits in our thoughts and emotions just as we form physical habits. Once we allow negativity in, it also becomes very difficult to free ourselves. It seems to grow, breed, and expand in our minds and our hearts until it overwhelms everything else. We drown in it, huge waves of sadness and self-directed anger crashing over us again and again until we feel we can never free ourselves. This is, of course, a lie. There is always hope.

That does not make what you or I feel any less real, tangible, or dangerous. You are facing a battle and it feels easier to just stay the course, let negativity take you wherever it wants. Don’t listen to it. Don’t you dare! You can be happy again. You can stand tall on a forest path, breathe deeply, and feel contentment roll through your entire soul. Take it from someone who has found himself in that ocean of self-doubt many times, bullied for being smart, for being nerdy, for being too skinny, too pale, too shy, and too much of a host of other things I’ve since come to realize had little to do with me and my insecurities as it did with those doing the bullying.

Growing up didn’t undo all the scars and trauma though. As an adult I’m still plagued with the stigmas placed on me as a child. I still see the skinny kid with braces, glasses, and the inability to tan to save his soul when I look in the mirror. I still find myself feeling small and alone when surrounded by people. I still doubt myself. I wonder if my writing will be good enough. I am afraid and often broken.

None of this stops me. None of it has kept me from writing books, imagining impossible worlds, and finding amazing moments of pure happiness. You are not alone. You can do better, be better. If I can, anyone can, because deep down I’m just a shy kid still trying to figure himself out. Here’s what I’ve found to help. Take whatever does the same for you.

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