Baby, stay with me tonight, please!
I'm sorry, I don't love you anymore.
Sounds familiar? So what's next?
You're sweating, shaking, and feeling as if the world will soon come to
an end. Everything you believed in- love, respect, loyalty- has all
vanished at lightning speed. You told yourself that if you treated her
right, she'd be with you forever.
Wrong! Nothing lasts forever.
This is a lesson we all learn the hard way. She'll hurt you, and you'll
probably hurt someone else. It's a vicious cycle that one must learn
about, in order to survive the crazy game of "love".
Let's face it, we have all been through the dreaded breakup
. If you haven't, believe me, you soon will. So here is an eight-stage
timeline you may experience that can help you recuperate after a
breakup.
eight-stage timeline
Stage 1- Time heals everything:
It's normal to have low self-esteem when someone you love leaves you.
But remember, you're still the same person that she once fell in love
with.
The only difference is that you are no longer together.
Believe me, you'll find someone else in time. As for your broken heart,
the old saying time heals everything cannot be more true.
Stage 2- You are vulnerable:
Anyone can take advantage of you when you are feeling vulnerable. You
must therefore be extra careful not to look to quick fixes, such as
dating old flings.
Stage 3- Feelings of denial:
At this stage, you will probably call your ex many times to question
whether the relationship is truly over, or whether there is still a
chance that your relationship can be salvaged.
Stage 4- Feelings of bitterness: Remember, the
relationship is over, so don't express feelings of sadness and
bitterness to your ex . If you do, you'll be letting her know that you
are unable to handle her decision, which makes you look immature.
Instead, channel those feelings into positive energy by improving the
skills at the activities you love.
Stage 5- Take time off:
A lot of men try to rebuild their new broken fragile ego, by dating
again too soon after a breakup. Stop! You'll only end up damaging
yourself even more, as well as the person you are dating. If you date
someone just to fill a gap, that's the way you'll end up treating that
person.
Stay away from women who'll prey on your fragile
emotional state, and take advantage of your vulnerability. This will
only give you a false sense of trust. Take time off and get involved in
things you never had the time to do before.
Stage 6- Socialize:
Meet a lot of new people. Use this time to improve relations with old
friends, network, and make new friends. A well-balanced life will lessen
the impact of a breakup, because you will still have the other aspects
of your life intact, and improved.
Stage 7- Fall in love:
Eventually, as time passes, you will fall in love again. Make sure to
let yourself fall in love, and take the time to really let your partner
in your life. There is nothing better than a new flame to make you
forget an old one (once you have had the time to heal, of course).
Stage 8- Don't set yourself up:
Don't get carried away with this new found flame, remember nothing
lasts forever. Don't make this person the sole focus of your life,
because if it doesn't workout, you'll find yourself right back at Stage
1.
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